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Who is Sitting at Your Kitchen Table?

I moved – literally – from Stamford to West Hartford, CT. Since I already worked 95% virtually (even in Before Times) and socializing during Covid has been 100% virtual until recently, moving felt a little bit like being that tree that falls in the forest – does it make a sound? Though our move didn’t directly affect my work with clients, it’s a big deal in every other way. If you’ve moved, you know what I’m talking about. I would not have managed through these ever evolving pandemic phases compounded by the stressors of selling/buying/closing/packing/moving/unpacking and innumerable glitches along the way without ­– my kitchen table. Not the kitchen table where I have my morning shot of caffeine, but the group of people who make up my Kitchen Table (KT). These are the individuals who are there for me, consistently. They are people I trust. Each person brings unique strengths to my life.

Imagine choosing these people as if you were putting together a ‘board of directors’ for your life. Whether you are cooking up a career change or are in the midst of a life transition (like relocating, divorcing, starting a business, ‘retiring’), you may want to think of who you want and need around you.Here are some things to consider: 🪑Who can you count on in a pinch? 🪑Whose perspective challenges you to think differently about a problem or issue? 🪑Who is your most enthusiastic cheerleader- no matter what? 🪑What kind of expertise is valuable to you and who do you know who has it? 🪑Who is most welcoming and accepting when you are your vulnerable and authentic? Neuroscience research supports the fact that we need people around us to affect positive change, to learn new things, expand ourselves and manage through difficulties. We’re wired for it! 🔹 I recommend 4 – 8 chairs at your Kitchen Table (not including yours).🔹Think beyond your close friends and family, if they fit your criteria, don’t exclude them either.🔹Including someone interesting and new to your life could be well worth the risk. And, always remember that adding someone you hire for a short while can be an investment in you that makes all the difference in your ability to make a successful transition.

Judy Garfinkel helps you clarify "what's next." Her expertise in career transition and building confidence and resilience, supports personal growth and the ability to navigate career and work transitions – especially now! She also crafts bespoke resumes, cover letters, LinkedIn profiles, and bios that open doors for her clients and land jobs. Judy is President of the International Coaching Federation - Connecticut Chapter, where she leads 200+ member coaches.

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